If you have experienced the trauma of infidelity, don’t feel alone. Statistics show over 70-80% of married couples struggle with this issue sometime during the course of their marriage.
Whether you call it cheating, having an affair, adultery, infidelity, or breaking your marital vows, it profoundly hurts people in committed relationships. It is the single most hurtful and destructive thing that can occur in a marriage where monogamy is the stated goal. Because it is so devastating, it is quite often not handled very constructively in relationships. Infidelity does not have to mean an end to the relationship. In some cases, however, people may make that choice because they don’t know what the options are. And in some cases, the best option may be to end the relationship [e.g., where there are multiple affairs, no genuine remorse or plans for recovery]. But for an overwhelming majority of cases of infidelity, not only can the relationship be saved and it can evolve into a stronger and more resilient and even more intimate relationship than before. However, this often requires some skillful facilitation from a therapist specifically trained in dealing with issues after infidelity occurs.
Bevill and Associates offers structured support to couples affected by infidelity . Couples counseling is available to those wishing information, direction and help. Couples treatment is available to all regardless of the current status of the relationship.
Couples coping with infidelity have a wide range of serious issues to address. Whether negotiating, remaining together, or managing a process of separation, every couple dealing with infidelity needs support, direction and education. We are familiar with couples having to cope with all of these concerns placed against a background of embarrassing and shameful issues. We can help by offering confidential, personal couples therapy with sessions designed to educate, provide direction and structured support.
After the discovery of an extramarital affair or other unfaithful/betrayal behaviors, your relationship can feel crazy. For the betrayed partner, it can feel like everything he/she had believed is now false. The person he/she thought they could count on has betrayed his/her trust. The betrayed partner becomes enraged and yet also feels disturbed by self-accusations about what he/she did wrong to “cause” the betrayal.
For the one who has done the betrayal, he/she may be relieved that it’s out but also feel tremendous guilt about hurting the one he/she loves. If this is you, you may be wondering if your spouse/partner can ever move beyond this or will it always be something held over you. You probably do not know what to do about the intensity of your partner’s anger, particularly when it keeps coming up over and over again.
Relationship counseling at this point can often be helpful when attempting to resolve your relationship.