In our approach working with couples, we tailor the treatment to the individual needs of the couple. We find specialized treatment much more effective for couples because we can target the areas where you need help most. Below you will find a sampling of some of the more common issues we deal with. Keep in mind that this is just a sampling of the work we do. Let us tailor a treatment intensive that can get your relationship back on track immediately.
Life got in the way
Many couples arrived at the brink after many years together. Careers, raising children, and other life events have a way of pulling you away from your relationship. You feel like you have been living like roommates for years. You don’t do any of the things you used to do. Your relationship has taken a back seat to other priorities in your life. This is a very common scenario and one that holds great potential for transformation. Sometimes, when life has gotten in the way, you will hear people say that they love one another but they are not “in love” with one another. Falling back “in love” can actually happen again–and it’s easier than you think. Couples in this track gain a better understanding of how life events gradually took time and energy away from their relationship. They will learn the right steps to take at the appropriate pace to begin feeling loving toward one another on the way back to being in love again. You move at your own pace and in a way that makes sense for you as a couple.
After the Affair, Relationship Repair
Infidelity is one of the most common reasons a couple gets to the brink. Whether it is a single incident of infidelity or chronic infidelity over many years, this can be an opportunity to transform your relationship. Although infidelity is oftentimes the breaking point for many couples, it is quite possible to rebuild your relationship after trust has been broken. Infidelity rarely happens in isolation to other issues. In addition to helping you regain trust, we will help you resolve the deeper accompanying issues in your relationship. We use a multifaceted approach to rebuilding trust including homework and reading assignments as well as tailored rituals designed to regain a comfortable level of trust so you can move forward as a couple. Couples that participate report instead of breaking them up, infidelity was the opening to major relationship positive changes.
Abuse comes in many forms. Although rarely talked about, many relationships have abusive characteristics. One or both partners may say or do things that do emotional and physical damage to one another. Abusive patterns can go exist for many years. When one partner has “had enough,” and is ready to leave the relationship, this is a common way for couples to get to the brink. Through a series of individual and couple sessions, we will help you deal with the underlying issues that help perpetuate abusive patterns. You will discover new ways of communicating, strategies for resolving conflict, and most importantly, how to stay together in an abuse-free relationship.
Many people falsely believe that a separation is the beginning of the end of their relationship. In some cases, a well-thought-out, structured separation can be just the thing that saves your relationship. Some couples reach a point where no amount of talking or problem-solving can make things get better. Our structured separation program will outline a specific format and planned for separation where you can maximize the possibility of happily reuniting. Our structured separation contracts outline plans for many important details including rules for contact and communication during the separation, parenting and visitation (if necessary), finances, individual growth experiences, and a detailed plan for reunification. Structured separations can be drastic but they effective because they force you out of old patterns and temporarily refocus you on your own individual growth process. In stepping away from your relationship and focusing attention on yourself, you gain a clearer perspective of your true wants and needs. Separation also helps you to let go of habitual arguments and destructive patterns and replace them with positive and healthy interactions.
Our couple intensives offer:
- Tailored treatment
- Extended length sessions
- Appointments 7 days per week
- Non-blaming approach